How to Break the Guilt and Embrace Outsourcing at Home

If you and your partner are juggling demanding careers, parenting duties, and household responsibilities, you’re not alone. But trying to do it all can leave you burned out and resentful.

That’s why in this week’s Modern Husbands podcast episode, we spoke with Christine Landis—founder of Peacock Parent—about how outsourcing isn’t just for businesses anymore. It can be the secret to reclaiming your time, energy, and connection at home.

“There’s simply too much to do in order to achieve a healthy work-life balance and still find time to enjoy it all,” Christine explains.

And she’s right. Delegating household tasks isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a strategy for thriving.

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Rethinking What It Means to Outsource

Most people think of outsourcing as something reserved for big corporations. Christine wants to change that mindset.

According to Christine, “If someone can free up my time because they can do it faster or better than I can, then why not apply that same principle to parenthood?”

The key is to reframe the shame and guilt that too often surrounds asking for help at home—especially for women.

“There is way too much shame and guilt that women especially carry when they ask for help in parenthood… and it’s time we break that cycle” says Christine. Outsourcing doesn’t mean you’re lazy or incapable. It means you value your time—and the people you share it with.

Why Delegating at Home Feels So Hard

Even when couples recognize the benefits of outsourcing, taking the leap can feel uncomfortable.

Christine pointed out that “Working parents are driven, used to a can-do attitude… It’s hard to give up control or admit you don’t want to do it all.”

Christine encourages couples to talk openly about what they love doing—and what drains them. It starts with two simple questions: What brings you joy? What fills you with dread?

“Define your joy. Define your dread. Talk with your partner about the dread… and delegate the shit NEITHER of you want to do.”

This isn’t about giving up—it’s about getting honest.

Buying Back Time for the Life You’ve Built

For many couples, the biggest barrier to outsourcing is cost. Christine suggests looking at the value of your time—not just in dollars, but in peace of mind.

“What is the value of someone being able to take that off your plate? Be honest. Don’t judge yourself or your partner.”

Think of outsourcing as an investment in your relationship. Instead of spending your limited energy scrubbing the bathroom or managing grocery deliveries, you can use that time for joy, rest, and connection.

“You are literally buying time and energy for the FUN STUFF.”

Want to Feel Less Overwhelmed? Start Here

If you’re constantly exhausted at the end of the day, and the idea of doing more chores makes your heart sink, Christine has one piece of advice:

“Be honest with your partner… and start a conversation about what can be outsourced so that BOTH of you can experience more quality family time.”

Podcast Episode

Show Notes

00:00 Introduction

02:07 Could you start by explaining what outsourcing is and how it has evolved in the modern world?

03:00 Where did your passion for supporting couples through outsourcing home management tasks come from?

04:46 Are there societal pressures that play into deciding to outsource work at home?

06:42 How can outsourcing services benefit dual-career couples specifically? Are there services that are particularly popular among this demographic?

09:22 How can couples decide which tasks to outsource versus which ones to keep in-house?

12:39 There are societal pressures for men to do things themselves. Can you speak to this?

19:10 What are some of the most common tasks that couples outsource, and why are these good starting points?

24:03 Why do folks struggle with delegating at home?

30:44 From a financial standpoint, how should couples evaluate the cost versus the benefits of outsourcing tasks?

32:53 Tell us about your company and where can our listeners learn more?

34:12 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you would like to share with our listeners? 

Click here to learn more about how Peacock Parent can help you.