10 Ways Couples Can Strengthen Marriage by Supporting Each Other’s Friendships

The most significant finding from Harvard's long-running study on adult development is that good relationships are the strongest predictor of a happy and healthy life.

I attended The Ohio State University and Penn State University football game with dear friends in early November. We may live in different areas of the country now, but we always find ways to stay connected in person. The time we spend isn't just joyful in the moment, but the memories of it pay dividends for a lifetime.

I'm not sure if there's research on this, but it's been my experience that when exceptional men like these surround you, they also serve as a source of inspiration for who they are as professionals, husbands, and parents.

But as you ponder how you can continue to, or begin to, prioritize the friendships in your life, of equal importance is supporting your spouse to do the same. And when you do, ensure that you've "got it" at home -- no calls or text messages asking for help.

3 Ideas to Set Up Your Spouse for Success

1. Own the Home Front While They're Away

The greatest gift you can give your spouse before a trip with friends is peace of mind. Handle meals, school logistics, bills, and household tasks proactively. The Fair Play method calls this taking full ownership—from conception to completion—so your spouse can relax knowing things at home are handled.

2. Encourage, Don’t Guilt

When your spouse is preparing to go away, small comments like “must be nice to get a break” can trigger guilt. Replace that with support: “I’m so glad you’re taking this time for yourself.”

Research from the Gottman Institute shows that happy couples celebrate each other’s wins and personal growth. Your encouragement reinforces that both partners deserve joy outside the marriage.

3. Plan a “Reentry” Buffer

The first day home can feel overwhelming—unpacking, laundry, catching up on messages. Give your spouse breathing room to ease back in. Order dinner, keep the schedule light, or plan a cozy night together. When you support your spouse’s transition home, you strengthen your emotional connection and model teamwork for your kids.

7 Budget-Friendly Ideas to Travel with Friends

1. Choose Drivable Destinations

Skip the airfare and split gas costs instead. Pick a city within a few hours’ drive or a nearby state park for a cabin weekend. The journey itself becomes part of the fun.

2. Book Shared Accommodations

Airbnbs or vacation rentals with multiple bedrooms let you share costs and kitchens. Cooking together can be more memorable than dining out.

3. Travel Off-Peak

Avoid peak travel months and weekends when prices surge. Midweek stays or shoulder seasons—like early spring or late fall—can cut costs by 30–40%.

4. Plan a Potluck Weekend

Everyone brings or preps one meal. You’ll spend less, waste less, and still enjoy amazing food. Plus, it’s a great excuse to show off your signature dish.

5. Swap Luxury for Experience

Trade the fancy hotel for a campsite, or the spa day for a local hike and picnic. Shared laughter and adventure matter far more than thread count.

6. Use a Shared Travel Fund

Create a joint “Friendship Fund” through Venmo or a shared savings account. Contribute small amounts monthly—say, $25 each—and use it when the time comes. It keeps friendships active without financial stress.

7. Capture Memories Creatively

Instead of pricey souvenirs, make a shared photo album or short video montage after the trip. The anticipation and memories of connection, according to happiness research from Dr. Cassie Holmes at UCLA, often brings as much joy as the experience itself. 

A special shoutout to our spouses for supporting moments like these in our lives.